“What sign are you?” is the number one question that has some people running for the hills, while for others it signals the start of something big. Astrology’s perceived importance in love has even survived into the technological age, and today you will find that a huge number of internet dating sites ask their members to state their sun sign in their profiles. These site owners know that for some daters this information is more important than a potential mate’s marital status or employment. And while few people will admit to having chosen their life partner because of the sign he or she was born under, a fair number of individuals do take astrology into consideration when deciding whether or not they want to get to know someone a little bit better. So what do you need to know if you want to employ a little help from astrology in your search for love?
Your star sign, which is also sometimes referred to as your sun sign, is the sign of the zodiac in which the sun was positioned at the time you were born. In astrology, the sun is deemed very important. While an astrological natal chart will also take into account the other planets’ positions at the time of a person’s birth, it’s believed that as the sun rules an individual’s willpower and ego, its influence is the strongest when it comes to determining character. This is why a horoscope -- the general type you read in newspapers and magazines -- is based on an individual’s star sign.
There are twelve signs of the zodiac and each sign belongs to an “element,” of which there are four: fire, earth, air, and water. Fire signs are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius; earth signs are Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn; air signs are Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius; and water signs are Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces.
It is believed that individuals born under signs belonging to the same element have more chance of building a successful relationship with one another than they do with individuals born under signs belonging to other elements. For example, someone born under the sign of Aquarius may find that relationships with people born under the signs of Libra and Gemini are more harmonious than they are with, say, someone born under the sign of Virgo. It’s also said that fire and air signs are good matches while earth and water signs make for successful unions. That is a very broad-brush approach to astrological compatibility, or synastry as it’s called.
One other aspect of synastry you need to consider when deciding whether you’ve made a wise choice of partner, and whether a relationship has the potential to last longer than a few weeks, is opposites. Each sign has an opposite sign, which is the sixth sign occurring after your sign on the zodiac. In order to work out your opposite sign you need to know the order in which the signs are placed, which is: Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, and Pisces. From this you can see that Cancer’s opposite sign is Capricorn. It’s believed that opposites are important in synastry as they complement each other -- someone born under your opposite sign is very likely to possess the traits and attributes that you lack.
Again, this isn’t the complete picture when navigating your way through love’s minefield with the help of the stars. As previously mentioned, while the sun may determine someone’s overall character, the position of the other planets at the time of his or her birth is also important in determining the type of mate that person will attract and to whom they will be attracted. Astrology also influences the way in which someone approaches relationships, including their attitudes to aspects such as marriage, sexual fidelity, and communication.
The position of Mars and Venus in someone’s astrological chart will have an important bearing on his or her intimate relationships. Mars influences desire, while Venus determines how a person attracts a potential mate. It’s these two planets that are responsible for the love at first sight phenomenon and sexual chemistry. According to astrology, a good foundation for a successful intimate relationship is for a couple to have Mars and Venus positioned in the same signs or in the same elements (air, earth, fire, or water).
This aspect of astrology is one of the reasons why there are hundreds of thousands of happy couples around the world who were born under signs belonging to different elements, and why you will very probably find a fire sign such as Leo living contentedly with, say, Cancer, a water sign.
While astrology can’t provide any guarantee of a satisfying and long lasting union, if you have trust and faith in it, it might just be able to help you find someone with whom you have a very good chance of building a happy and successful relationship.